Defining True Beauty: What Makes a Person Truly Beautiful?
Most young girls, when coming of age, realize that beauty captures the attention of others. Many grow up believing that beauty is a measure of social status, thinking that if they achieve the perfect image, they will be the most popular or the most noticed in a room. The attention received from others can become a source of validation, leading to a cycle of seeking approval. This is problematic because it places our sense of beauty in the hands of others rather than in the truth of God’s design.
In today’s world, influenced by social media, Hollywood, and a culture of pride, we are often captivated by superficial beauty. This distraction makes physical attributes seem more important than spiritual depth, leading us away from nurturing our inner beauty—the true source of radiance. True beauty is not in appearance alone but in the practice of virtue and goodness, which illuminate the soul.
St. Augustine wisely reminds us, “Beauty grows in you to the extent that love grows, because charity itself is the soul’s beauty.” This highlights that true beauty is not merely about aesthetics but about the love and goodness that radiate from within.
What is True Beauty?
I define true beauty as:
“A physical attractiveness that illuminates the inner goodness of a person; a person who magnifies virtue through their outward presence.”
True beauty consists of two inseparable parts:
- Outer Beauty – The outward appearance that is naturally attractive.
- Inner Beauty – The virtues that magnify a person’s goodness and character.
Both aspects must coexist to define true beauty. It is not enough to simply possess outer beauty without a virtuous soul, just as inner beauty should be reflected in the way we present ourselves. Beauty is cultivated and maintained through effort, and it is this continual practice of virtue that makes a person truly beautiful.
The Purpose of Beauty in God’s Design
There is nothing wrong with desiring to be beautiful. As human beings, we naturally gravitate toward beauty, for God Himself is the author of all beauty. Nature, with its breathtaking landscapes, intricate colors, and perfect design, reflects His divine artistry.
If beauty originates from God, then beauty must be good. Neglecting our God-given beauty—both physically and spiritually—would be to ignore His wonderful creation. However, we must remember that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, NRSV-CE). Just as we care for our souls through prayer and virtue, we should also maintain our bodies with respect and dignity, ensuring that our outward appearance is a reflection of our inner grace.
True Beauty is Rooted in Virtue
True beauty is first achieved by practicing virtue. St. Peter reminds us: “Do not adorn yourselves outwardly by braiding your hair, and by wearing gold ornaments or fine clothing; rather, let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:3-4, NRSV-CE). This does not mean we must neglect our appearance, but rather that we should first cultivate the inner beauty that will shine through our actions and presence.
A truly beautiful woman demonstrates her beauty through her character. No amount of physical attractiveness can define true beauty if a woman’s soul is not nurtured with grace, kindness, and virtue. A person who embodies love, humility, and wisdom will exude a beauty that surpasses any external embellishment.
The Expression of Inner Beauty
True beauty manifests in our daily expressions—our body language, words, attitudes, and emotions. Everything we nourish our soul with will inevitably radiate outward. When we fill ourselves with truth, goodness, and love, we become a living testament to God’s beauty.
As St. Teresa of Ávila said, “Christ has no body now on earth but yours. No hands, no feet on earth but yours.” The way we carry ourselves and interact with others is an extension of God’s beauty in the world. If we focus on cultivating virtue, our beauty will not fade but will instead grow stronger, leaving a lasting impact on those around us.
Final Thoughts
True beauty is not about striving for societal standards but about striving for holiness. A woman who seeks to reflect God’s goodness and love will be truly radiant, for her beauty is eternal and not dependent on fleeting trends. By embracing both inner and outer beauty in harmony, we honor God’s design and become beacons of His light in the world.
Let us remember: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30, NRSV-CE)
May we all seek to cultivate a beauty that does not fade, but one that grows stronger in love and virtue every day.